Sep 30, 2015 4:54 PM

NH1 Exclusive: Family speaks out about the ordeal of missing sister

NASHUA - A mystery that spanned more than three decades and 2,000 miles ended with sad news for friends and family of Brenda Gerow.

Gerow left her home in Nashua with a boyfriend back in 1980. She eventually ended up near Tucson, Ariz. Her family didn't hear from her for years and after getting worried, reported her missing.

Bill Gerow and his big sister Brenda were close throughout their childhood. But now, his greatest fear has been realized and Bill faces the task of burying his sister.

“This has destroyed every dream I had of my sister one day meeting my kids. Maybe I would be meeting her kids one day. It’s just demolished all the hopes and dreams since the day she left,” said Bill Gerow who spoke to NH1 News over the phone.

Gerow remembers his sister meeting John Kalhauser at a bar in Dracut, Mass. Then six months later, they began dating, and Gerow told the family she was moving out.

Years went by and the family heard less and less of Brenda. They finally contacted authorities fearing the worst. But after years, the search for Brenda Gerow went cold.

Police said the mystery was solved recently when evidence like clothing, interviews, and new DNA testing led them back to Kalhauser and helped them to identify Gerow's remains.

“I want someone to pay,” said Bill Gerow.

Despite her long absence, friends from her New England childhood still remember her fondly.

“As years pased, Bill and I never forgot Brenda,” said a friend who did not want to be identified. “We always thought that someday she would just pop in and say hello again. God rest your soul, we love you Brenda.”

Just three weeks ago, Brenda’s ashes finally returned home.

“They arrived in a plain little box with a pullout tray that had a number on it. Inside was a clear plastic bag. I can’t describe the emotions,” said Gerow.

Detectives are now attempting to build a case against Kalhauser, who already is serving time for killing his wife back in 1995.


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